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Old 8th February 2007, 02:00 AM   #6
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Exclamation The underlying reasons?

Dave, I just noticed your forum here.

This overplayed incident wasn't so much about obtaining cash and publicity through an act of dubious opportunism. People who crave undue attention are generally self-absorbed, and consequently have little to contribute constructively to any kind of relationship; all of this can inevitably be traced back to a deep seated insecurity. Look beneath the veneer, the social and legal protocols, the established operating mechanics, of a society, and you see the underlying elements that make it tick… the interrelating psyches of its constituent beings.

Ms Lewis took her bikini to the game, hence her escapade was carefully premeditated. So why would a woman have her breasts enhanced, flaunt herself in front of a national rugby audience, and then milk the incident for all of the publicity that it's worth? Very simply because she craves to be noticed, to be admired by men, and envied by women. Society, backed relentlessly by the media, has arbitrarily decided that wealth, shameless bravado, and sex appeal are the most valuable and desirable of all human qualities, and the masses willingly give their unthinking assent.

Insecurity is a two-way street: much of the criticism leveled at Ms Lewis was likely sour grapes. Folk who envy her audacity and immodesty, and the celebrity status that she obtained; women who envy her cosmetically enhanced body; guys who are frustrated because, in the ethereal contest for sexual subjugation, she remains unattainably elusive. For most of us, at least to a greater or lesser degree, life incorporates a desperate quest to overcome our darkest inhibitions and insecurities, and when we compare ourselves with others who seem to be succeeding better than we are in this area, our self-esteems take further damage.

Perhaps the greatest liberation is to reach the point where you don't give a toss about what others might be thinking about you; where, because of personal goals and achievements, maturity of outlook, and genuine extroversion, the focus dissipates from self, and you simply go about your life with a quiet inner confidence. Publicity or acclaim become a totally unnecessary luxury, because you truly believe in yourself, and this further frees you from measuring yourself by societal values. The elite few of us, who attain something approaching this level of freedom and detachment, live happy and productive lives, and are in a position to likewise contribute unselfishly and constructively to the lives of others.

Hopefully getting there…
Dr Yes

Originally Posted by Dave View Post
BTW Lisa, after your escapades it's a bit rich complaining that your past has been put in the public spotlight. If you want to keep your past private, don't seek any more publicity. Then you and me will both be happy
I recall that Princess Diana frequently whined about a lack of privacy, while continually placing herself in situations where escalating publicity was inevitable. Was this extreme naivete, or were her complaints shrewdly feigned, and actually calculated at further fanning the flames of her celebrity cult? I suspect a similar question be reasonably asked here?
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